There is this question that keeps bogging my mind each time I think about sex and what the bible says about it.
If you do as much as look at the opposite sex lustfull, you have sinned.
If looking lustfully is a sin then in what category do we put romance?
Kissing, caressing, etc
Someone called it outtercourse (intercourse)
What do you call it and what is the right way to view this?
Please post your comments as you will be helping a lot of people who want to know if they have been sinning all the while thinking “at least i haven’t had sex”. Or maybe it’s no sin and iv been killing myself trying to restrain.
God bless you all.
Okay
It’s cool. Sex education is what i realy advocate.
By: Bayo on February 21, 2008
at 3:50 pm
Truthfully i would say outtercourse is an excuse, honestly most youth/teenagers should keep their hands to themselves,they definitely cannot handle it ,it goes beyond what your peers tell you.
By: mobolaji on February 21, 2008
at 4:49 pm
@ mobolaji
That one na for you oh…lol
@ post
Some of us actually have “physical touch” as our primary love language. I know it is not entirely directed at “outtercouse”, but its a part of it. As for me, i dont think i can go out with a girl and not kiss/ carress…How we wan take do am? Maka why?
Having said that, it comes with a lot of self control, maturity and mutual understanding on the couple becos I dont believe in sex before marriage.
Teenagers..abeg dont do it oh..I am an adult, a big bros oh, when i was ur age, i was going after my books …
Now..i am quarter to marry oh!.thats why i can yarn like this.
I had the option of being hypocritical, but, sorry Seun, i can’t.
By: folayemianifowoshe on February 21, 2008
at 11:59 pm
Guys,it really very easy to say, its the keeping your word about what you have said that is difficult.
By all standards now,(age,academically etc)i should be sexually active now,but am not because i haven’t gotten to the level of financial freedom i want.i would love to be married to my swthart and not burning up…,my advice to the youth is try zip up if you no fit hold body go marry o
My advice to the youth is try zip up if you no fit hold body go marry lol…
@ folayemi
Bros Bear in mind that this blog is for general not for 18and above oo.Good to hear from you tho.
By: misidreads on February 22, 2008
at 9:34 am
Keeping to the law is so difficult, its the grace of God that makes us righteous for we have all sinned and fall short of the Glory of God.
By: Emog on February 22, 2008
at 10:31 am
folayemi has said it all, for me touch is very important, however dabbling into ‘outercourse’ that won’t result into other things requires a lot of self control, I’m an adult and I guess I can take responsiblity for my actions.
By: Sniper on February 22, 2008
at 10:57 am
For me, threshold vary and you must understand yourself to be able to control yourself, for what you do not understand, you cant control.you must be able to know when your far is too far.moreover one thing leads to the other.I support holding of hands, hugs and some slight touching but anything further is too far.
Lastly, you must also define romance to be able to know if its a sin or not.
By: Timmie on February 22, 2008
at 11:52 am
hmm….very well said everyone…
I think that youths generally should take self-discipline courses(well not go to the university to take classes!!!…lol!)but develop yourself mentally by continously telling yourself why you shouldnt be involve in it…I can assure you it works!!!
@Emog
I strongly believe in what you said, it really takes the grace of God to do the right things
@Folayemi
Whats up…..missed you oooo!!!!!
By: joypheobe on February 22, 2008
at 12:03 pm
Sex without a marriage license is sin. The bible instructs that we flee fornication, and all appearances of sin. Not just sin alone… but the outer appearances of it. The fundamental question is, will you be ok to see your husband kissing and caressing another lady? If it’s alright before marriage then it’s alright then.
Sex is very enjoyable under the God approved license of marriage, it happens without looking over your shoulder, without blaming yourself or feeling guilty. You can do it for as long as you want, anywhere you want, any method you want, you know that God is happy with you, infact you can do it while you are even praying to God, he knows you are in perfect agreement. Ahead of marriage however, everything you do, inter or outer is not pleasurable to God… (remember we were created to give him pleasure).
Kissing, caressing, smooching, e.t.c. is rightly termed as foreplay, it’s setting the arena for intercourse. And if you claim you want to control yourself, why taste a soup you don’t want to eat? What if you don’t end up marrying her? Touchery ahead of marriage weakens your ability to interact at beyond the physical layer, and if he can touch you without marrying you… he can touch somebody else when he’s married to you.
There are so many complacent philosophies out there, but in our heart of hearts, we know what’s right… or we used to. Let’s make use of God’s grace that is available.
By: Adeolu Akinyemi on February 22, 2008
at 12:53 pm