It has become a necessary evil this days to employ helps in the home( house maids) as parents this days find it difficult to get household chores done while running around to make ends meet. Its not easy I know. May God help us.

There are times when having a maid in the house is inevitable hey my parents had lots and lots of maids. but there is a way our children can respond to the fact that these maid are though not family members, they are human beings as well.

When I was much younger, my parents would make us do house chores with or without maids. This is not because the maids couldn’t do them but because they could not allow us to become lazy. We on the other hand treated the maids as part of the family.You would be surprised at times when people around call our maids by our surname. This is because we love them and they are not treated differently.

Now someone would say why should I treat a common house maid as part of the family when shes not? Ill tell you;

When you treat someone well, such a person feels at home and takes the family to be his/her family then it becomes difficult for such a person to do things detrimental to his/her family. Someone will say ”Iv tried that it is still not working” its also good to know that there are times when we do all we can and they still turn bad. Such definitely should be allowed to go back to where he/she finds a sense of belonging. Despite the fact that my parents and us as teenagers then treated these maids well, there were some who misbehaved and many others who stayed loyal. Some even refer there younger ones to us because they know that they would be treated well.

Lets be friends with our maids lets make them feel loved. That way we can help affect their lives in major ways.

Whether or not they turn out good, it is only right for us to fulfill all righteousness.

Note: God’s love is shared aboard and does not discriminate to either slave or free.

Cheers.

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Hmmmm…………..

I would take a little time to deviate from the topic meant for this edition and promise to share it in the next post.

This is to the teenagers who are confused, who don’t know how to respond to the pressures of friends. Ive come to realize that a lot of our teenagers tend to value the opinion of their friends and as thus, wants to follow the trend of things in town.

Some of the pressures our peers place on us are:

1. Relationship ( we are pressed into going into one relationship or the other because we are told it is time and anyone that is not in any cannot be regarded as the Big boys/girls in town)

2. Sex ( so many times am sure that we have been told that sex is good and some how it measures your maturity.)

3. Cheating ( most times its called helping)

Here are some tips on how to handle these peer pressure:

1. Relationship: Lets make something clear before I go on. It is not wrong to be in a relationship. Yes I can repeat that over and over again. It isn’t wrong if you are matured enough for it and not because someone else (your friend is in one so you have to be in it too.

Take for instance I was friends with like 5 ladies majorly in school and 4 of them were in one relationship or the other. I never felt out of place with them even when their boyfriends would come, give them things, etc I still did not allow myself to be pushed into saying yes to an unworthy relationship for the purpose of just being in one. Till I left school and finished service, I was never engaged with anyone. Not because I think its wrong but because I didn’t find a life partner in any of the men that proposed to me.

My point, Have a good self worth, Know that your worth cannot be dictated by people, see yourself in God’s Image, Use your single life wisely to develop yourself, If you aren’t hooked, don’t go for just anybody it only means the right person hasn’t come, be sure when the right time come, the right person will come. Gods Delays are not Gods denials.

2 . Sex: hmmm… seriously this issue has become a major topic in our everyday lives. We see it on our TV sets, magazines, on the internet, etc. Hey people, if any man/woman says its a way to show that you love him/her then let him/her know that “love waits”. If you love someone, the way to show it is not to encourage the person to do the wrong things.

Please note that Virgins are still celebrated. So if you still are, guide it jealously. Sex does show your level of maturity; yes it tells me if you are matured enough to control your feelings.

My advise, sex is not equal to love, If you have your pride intact, protect it with everything you’ve got, if not its time to guard what is left of your pride with everything you have too. Why,  because you know its right, because your future partner will appreciate it and most importantly because God requires that of you.

3. Cheating: No matter what name you call it cheating is cheating. Any help you cannot render before you enter into the exam hall is no longer called help.

My advise, make sure you help or teach your friend everything he/she needs to know before the exam because whether you  are the teacher or the student, when you are caught  both will pay the price. Think of it this way, whatever you cant do without hiding don’t do it at all.

Take a little time alone, make God your companion, God will order your steps so that you don’t stumble in your journey through life.

I love you all.

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Yesterday was actually an interesting day for me as I was among a group of teenagers. We were surpposed to have a program called teens hang out. We went out to Sweet sensations where we took some snacks and grouped ourselves into four persons each, 1 teacher and 3 teenagers per group. You would be surprised as to what they were willing to talk about.

For one reason or another I will not go into the private things.

Some of the major things they wanted to know were how they could handle friends, how to relate with a house help, etc.

Talking of friends, I personally don’t just go around picking friends on the street, to me, friends are not sweet in the eyes of a 7yrs old, who just goes around picking the next thing from the ground that looks amusing. If I’d compare friends, I’d rather compare them to Sanitary towels for ladies or Jewelries for most people.

Why do I compare Friendship to Sanitary towel or jewelry?

Sanitary towel is basically for good hygiene its either you use a good one and get the best out of it or you go use a piece of cloth and your personal hygiene is whacked. Some have their size also when using sanitary towels. For instance if you are to use one for heavy flow and you choose medium, you’ll be surprised at the kind of embarrassment it will cost you at the end of the day. So also friendship, if you go around just picking anyone that comes your way, they will not only soil your personal reputation and make your personality stink, they will disgrace you in public.

So also with jewelries, If its not the original you cannot use them for long. It’s either you keep changing them just to keep up with your needs or you don’t have them anymore. Friend you pick up like fake jewelries you will have to keep renewing otherwise they are gone from you.

My advice, don’t just see a fine person and become friends with the person, look well before you leap in fact in these case pray before you choose your friends. they can either make you or mare you.

Choose people with like minds

Choose ones that can add value

Be that person you want in your friend ( likes beget likes)

Then go all the way to be your friends keeper. so that you can study together and when it is time to write exams you know that sitting with your friend will only mean maximum concentration and not cheating.

We will talk about how to deal with house helps in the next post.

God help us all.

Love you over and over again

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Hello,

Its feels good to be back again

Today Id like to share a bit about my life with you.

Its kind of funny you know, when you are young and you have a passion for something but you don’t have the slightest idea of how to go about it, or even what it takes to pursue it. It can at times kill the dream or make it go into a comma.

When I was quite young during my secondary school days I used to nurse the thought of becoming a medical doctor but as I grew wiser, I got to understand why i couldn’t become one. Then I wanted agriculture because I liked animals but only when they are young. After a while, I didn’t want that anymore. I decided to go into the University to study economics not because it was an area i loved but because at the time, I was told it was the best social science course and with that i didn’t have to be a science student or an art student.

Along the line of my studies I discovered that I spent a lot of my time gaining knowledge from those older and from reading books only to look for opportunities to share them with the younger ones. I then knew what i wanted to do and though I knew it would not be any source of income, I wanted it badly enough to pursue it. I started by taking a course on Teenagers Ministry and children Ministry but i discovered that I was more inclined to the teens than to the kids. What did I do?

I started a teenager’s club in my house where teens from around could come to meet on Saturdays and could also have access to me sometimes during the week to rob minds on some of their challenges.

Then I started wondering what I could do to make money so I could help myself and this Teens in my own little way. It was then I discovered that I was good with Hand craft, and decoration through my late aunt who thought me some basic decorating skills. I went all out to start an event decoration company with no capital. I took pictures from my aunt’s collections and went ahead to negotiate businesses which paid off eventually and I used the advance paid to start the business.

What is the essence of my story?

You don’t need 1million Naira to start that business, you don’t even need a great idea to make things happen. Start now with what you have. That little thing that looks insignificant in your hands could fill up another’s, that teeny tiny idea that sounds absurd could be all that man at the corner of the road has been waiting to hear. Don’t just think about the possibility of an apple tree, get the seed, plant it, nurture it, and see how it will grow to become a tree that feeds you and many others, how birds from afar will come to build their nest in it, how its branches can serve as a shelter to many,and how so wonderfully it will bring a smile upon people’s faces and eventually yours. It is called fulfillment.

Our grand fathers waited for the big opportunity but they never got one till they died.

If we want to make a difference, then we have to start now with the talent or skills we possess. Lets not wait till we get the big breakthrough before we make a move, lets do it now. We will be better for it. Our names will form the song on the lips of those few and it will go down in history that we affected these lives if not in writing then in the words of such lives that were affected.

The saying “Use what you have to get what you want” is good if channeled towards the right course.

God Bless You as you start to affect lives positively.

Loving you all

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Looking through naija streets I see different faces of people, people who want to express their love, people who want to give a helping hand, people who want to give a complimentary remark about the other person, but are unable to because of the disapproval of someone close by. Then I discovered that majority of the object of my vision are teenagers. Teens who want to voice out but as they open their mouth, the word speechless describes their circumstance best, then they try to help but as they reach out to give, all they get is the disapproving looks from those they look up to, they try hard to express love but they do not know how for the word has been mere words to them thus far.

Its hard I know but we can make things happen if we cannot give our words voice for fear of being let down then we can give our words life with our fingers on this page.

Lets come together to help others, to appreciate someone, to add value to people home and abroad, to let others know that we are Teenagers who are proud to belong.

And to all teen lovers, lets all come together to help our teens from the dangers that so easily entangles them.

Love you all

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